A beautiful young man on the making…

Posted on January 16, 2008 by sylvied

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This is a post about my son.

I would classify our relationship as intense. I can honestly say that since he was born not one day has passed without it being some sort of challenge for me . Let’s just say that the boy knows what he wants and I have been rather ill prepared for it.

I adore the boy, from the minute I held him I have been in total awe. I have explored many emotions linked to being a parent, self doubt is one that is recurring through.

Despair many times …I have been one of these mums who had a child with a tantrum in full swings stuck on one hip and a shopping basket on the opposite hand and acted as if all was normal.

Overwhelmed sometime by his attention to details and his genius ways.

Tonight he brought so calm and confidence back in my parenting skills.

I was begged ( pretty much) to make some crepes for dinner. Which I thought was a great idea as after one glance at my fridge…the only option was to make crepes. As I burnt away the remains of the last few pancakes I asked Ben Ouai to lay the table in the kitchen. To my surprise Bein Ouai had much more ambition than that: The table was fully laid next door, candles were lit and the end of the week uninspiring dinner suddenly turned into a major event! ( well for us anyway…)

I think the road to parenthood will always be a bumpy one but I can honestly say that moment like this reassure me that we are doing a fine job with him and he will turn out to be a fine young man…

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14 Responses to “A beautiful young man on the making…”

  1. 70steen, on January 17th, 2008 at 1:37 am Said:

    Parent hood is tough, there is no preparation you can make except trust your inner judgment.
    Many of my friends have had boys before & after girls and have exclaimed graphically the differences about them.
    What I find so funny is that all the little boys of my friends love me (don’t ask me why?), they are pure angels in my presence (not so at their own home I hasten to add) and I have 4 at present that want to live with me (eeeek age range 2 - 7)…… I adore them all too, 3 of them are my god sons.
    Ben Ouai I am sure will be a fine young man … yes not with out some hic ups along the way but hey isn’t that what growing up is about :-)

  2. tNb, on January 17th, 2008 at 4:48 am Said:

    Unfortunately, I have not been blessed with the opportunity to be a parent. Perhaps my biological clock is digital because I’ve never heard it tick, but that doesn’t prevent me from seeing the beauty in what I can only imagine is the most unique relationship you could ask for. I have never met you or your son, but you already have my respect for taking on the most difficult job on earth. Bravo!

  3. Daddypapersurfer, on January 17th, 2008 at 9:53 am Said:

    It’s a bumpy ol’ road alright that’s as long as your life - great fun though………. most of the time!!!!

  4. nursemyra, on January 17th, 2008 at 11:30 am Said:

    I have a theory about mothers and sons after observing a small control group (me and my two best friends).

    I think many women “fall in love” with their male offspring. this is not to say they love their female children any less, just differently.

    sylvie, what do you think?

  5. sylvied, on January 17th, 2008 at 11:56 am Said:

    70: that’s because you sound absolutely lovely and I am not very surprised that these boys all want to live with you! you are right about the difference as much as we try to raise boys and girls the same ways I have to adapt to both of them differently.
    tnb: Thank you for your thought, I know a couple of friends who have digital clocks too, everybody is different what counts is to have a fulfilling life motherhood is only “a way” to get that.
    DaddyP: thank you for your jolly imput ;-)
    Nursemyra: That is very interesting question, I have to say that both relationships are very different. Love is strong for both, my daughter is very much like me and our relationship flows in a easy and straightforward manner, with the boy it is love and “hate”, when I think about it, it was a similar relationship with my father, brother, and to think of it husband and son! :-)
    the funny thing is that they are all Gemini too!
    I tend to agree with you!
    I am off to see a therapist…

  6. baby, on January 17th, 2008 at 3:43 pm Said:

    hey there!! :)
    first of all, somehow… your post this time, touched me BIG time. nearly in tears… :)
    (seriously… ;)

    uhuhh.. and secondly, i am a gemini too!!! :) (not relevant… i know. heheheh… but i am indeed!!) :)

  7. sylvied, on January 17th, 2008 at 4:53 pm Said:

    baby: oh…what can I do to make you feel better?…I can try a twirl? Gemini are great…double sword but very rich characters ;-)

  8. Ghosty, on January 17th, 2008 at 5:05 pm Said:

    Not being a mother, I can only comment on being a son - and a difficult one, at that. Of course, my mother was, shall we say … a bit more strict. Our relationship was tremendously strained thoughout my years growing up. Now, we get along like two peas in a pod.

  9. baby, on January 17th, 2008 at 9:18 pm Said:

    helloooooooooo!!! :)
    thanks sylvie. i think i am okay now… hmm, maybe.

    aah… as you should have known by now, GEMINI is a horrible stars among all stars i shall say!

    we have a fickle mind! one time, we will be so happy up the hill, and then within seconds we can change to be as moody as we can be, and then again change back again… its too impossible, that is a gemini can be. so, i guess now you understand my upside down posts eh? :)

    ficklish i am indeed. hehheehe… but now, i am happy!! :)

  10. sylvied, on January 17th, 2008 at 11:56 pm Said:

    Ghosty: nice to hear you and your mum get on well now, ultimately love is key and is the winner at the end ;-) Life is never dull with him and I will change that for nothing!

    Baby: it all makes sense now ;-)

  11. 70steen, on January 18th, 2008 at 1:35 am Said:

    Thank you Sylvie.. I guess it is all about when they say to me ‘play this game with me Auntie 70s’ & I say no and then they win me round with those lovely smiles lol :-)

  12. Cowgirl Betty, on January 18th, 2008 at 6:45 am Said:

    Loved the post. I don’t think there’s a way to describe the parent-child relationship except in anecdotes. Not being a mother myself (yet), I love how children demand their childhood, and show their affection in such genuine and unpretentious ways. If they think you’re old and ugly, they’ll tell you. If they’re tired and angry, they’ll let everyone in a 10k radius know. If they love you, they’ll flabbergast you from left-field.

  13. sylvied, on January 18th, 2008 at 10:21 am Said:

    Cowgirl Betty: yes they do say truth comes from the children’s mouth ;-) you have the right idea about children I can see! I love looking at life through their eyes sometime, it is refreshing.

  14. Judy, on January 18th, 2008 at 4:20 pm Said:

    Children will always surpass our wildest dreams and wishes…. Sometimes they will make us take a step back and breath….. sometimes they need a bang to the nog…
    Hugs and keep up the brilliant work you do as an artist and as a Mum~~

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